Does this sound familiar? We hear them from partners, children, parents, friends, superiors, and colleagues—or in the wider context from politicians, powerful figures, and decision-makers: excuses. They surround us every day, more or less consciously. And let's be honest, when was the last time you thought about your own excuses? Other people's excuses are easy to spot, but our own are very difficult to recognize.
The fatal thing about excuses? Because many people use them, they eventually become the truth—an excuse turns into a lifelong lie. Now you surround yourself with people who see things exactly the same way you do.
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A classic excuse:
"I don't have time."
Does this assumption sometimes lead you to believe that more time would help? What needs to happen for you to break out of this cycle, and is that even possible? I have a suitable exercise for you. It takes a while to become second nature. But once you learn to do it intuitively, you won't want to be without it. Because it gives you strength, a lot of strength. Intrigued?
How to recognize your excuses and turn them into results
Here we go. Here comes the mental reformulation of the excuse "I don't have time" – the path from victim thinking (excuse) to creator thinking (transformation):
"What do I need to change about myself so that I can choose and use my priorities and resources in such a way that I can achieve my goals effectively in the time available?"
Can you feel the difference in attitude? Of course, it takes time for the second sentence to become a deeper conviction—depending on how consistently you keep bringing this sentence to mind. Above all, this has to do with determination and consistency.
Even as you read this, it becomes clear that this is anything but easy. It is simple, but not easy to apply and implement. Even recognizing our own excuses requires a great deal of courage. After all, there is a reason why we have not wanted to look at this part of our personality until now. And these reasons can sometimes run very deep. And sometimes they can also be painful. But once these limitations (excuses) are overcome, what we get in return is worth much more than the effort it takes to overcome them—no matter how long it takes. That is pure life! Hopefully, you will find as much joy in it as I do. This is the step from recognition to actual integration, to transformation.
The path to the core of our personality
With every excuse you overcome, fulfillment and success in life increase. How do you find your way? It can be difficult at times, but it's worth it! The reward: a self-determined and free life.
Results leave no room for detours. Announcements, declarations of intent, and plans no longer interest us. "Show, don't tell" becomes our maxim. This lesson will show us where we truly belong. If we find ourselves in a place that is not meant for us, the Result Orientation will completely overwhelm us—perseverance is then inappropriate, and we burn out. Only where our talents and strengths lie will we Result Orientation to Result Orientation the pressure of permanent Result Orientation and even learn to love it. At the end of this path, it's even great fun! Because once we have transformed a large part of our excuses, we have finally arrived at our true selves.
Yours, Boris Grundl
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