Promoting them is Obligation leader.
Lip service from bosses often hinders employee growth. We hear statements from these very same managers such as: "I would like my employees to responsibility more responsibility ." These leader quite shocked when we respond: "No, you don't! If you really wanted that, it would already be the case." Then our conversation partners look at us like a character in a slapstick movie who has just had a bucket of water dumped on them. But our answer is quite easy to understand. It's not even a reproach, just an observation based on a lot of experience.
Only strong bosses want strong employees.
It's a fact: employees unconsciously orient themselves toward their boss's actual and unspoken wishes and needs rather than his words. This rule can also be formulated in reverse: bosses use subconscious signals to make it clear to their employees what they actually expect. In contrast, the spoken word is almost meaningless. There are even phrases that reliably signal that a leader wants leader the opposite of what they say. The more frequently these phrases are used, the less likely they are to be acted upon.
Statements such as "I want employees who act like entrepreneurs within the company" are practically classics. Time and again, we encounter managers who say this, but in reality want obedient soldiers. Exceptions prove the rule. The same applies to the statement: "We need more lateral thinkers in the company!" When these words are uttered, you can be sure that everything is desired except independent thinking. leader who leader want lateral thinkers in their environment already have them. If, on the other hand, they are surrounded by yes-men and nodders, these are guaranteed to be the people with whom the manager feels most comfortable.
What you say is what you would like to have.
What surrounds you is what you are.
If you want to get to know the character of a boss, don't listen to their words, but look at the people they surround themselves with. Are they weak, dependent, and trying to please them? Then their need for harmony is also that of their boss. Or are they self-confident and communicate with their superior on an equal footing? Then their ability to deal with conflict is also that of their boss. This perspective helps managers and employees to recognize themselves.
Now the saying "the fish stinks from the head down" is easier to understand. Anyone who has leader this as leader and examined themselves will see how things can be changed for the better. Namely, by first changing themselves instead of using power to manipulate the thoughts of others. This process requires determination—but it is worthwhile. Emotionally and financially. Once the boss realizes what their actual motives have been up to now, they have the chance to change. And with that, to develop themselves and their employees in a positive way and achieve better results in the company. Of course, it is leader slap in the face for leader self-image when they have to admit that they mean well but do not do well: they are a do-gooder. They really just want to be admired and be the center of attention. Results and impact are only means to an end. Recognizing this fact would be the beginning of improvement.
The circumstances in which we live or work always remind us of what we really wanted until now. But we can start wanting something else at any time—through our own realization. What a gift! Human greatness is evident when someone does this voluntarily. When someone decides to take small steps toward becoming more capable of constructive debate and striving a little less each day for sticky harmony at any price. That is where human development occurs. First with the boss, then with the employees.
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