How can emotional intelligence influence our inner freedom? What is the difference between analytical and emotional intelligence? And how can we overcome our fears and free ourselves from our inner chains?
Our own fears limit us. They restrict us and cause us to avoid certain situations. But why is it so difficult for us to face challenging situations and overcome our fears in the process?
Freeing yourself from fears with emotional power
Instead of overcoming our fears, we often try to avoid them. When we ask "why," we quickly arrive at human intelligence. Here, we distinguish between analytical and emotional intelligence.
In our society, analytical intelligence is usually at the forefront, but the real power needed to free ourselves from inner fears and chains is emotional intelligence. With its help, we can develop our mental stability and better deal with fears and rejection.
Imagine the following situation: You have to drive a route that includes sections you are afraid of and would rather avoid. You come up with a strategy for how you want to tackle this route. You go through the individual sections step by step. At the end of this thought process, you can analytically understand how to drive the dreaded route without any problems, but your emotional intelligence stands in the way of this solution. You recognize a potentially painful experience. Dangers come to mind and you decide to take a detour instead of taking the shorter route and overcoming your fears.
Rejection is as painful as it is necessary.
But how can we train our emotional intelligence so that it helps us free ourselves from our fears?
The rule here is: we must open ourselves up, consciously manage our emotions, and face our fears.
The fear of rejection plays a major role in emotional intelligence. Instead of viewing things rationally, as analytical intelligence does, emotional intelligence questions them. Always remind yourself that
- Rejection awaits us every day.
- We can only overcome our fears by facing them.
- Rejection must be painful when we open ourselves completely.
Avoiding fears leads to aggressiveness and compensation.
Nowadays, we humans are doing more and more to avoid painful situations and rejection. Why is that?
The answer to this seems logical: the emotional strength we need to reveal ourselves completely and break our inner chains is only slightly developed these days. We increasingly avoid daily challenges and thereby limit ourselves even more. Our fears shift from the outside to the inside.
The possibilities of modernity create new challenges, many new situations, and confrontations. In contrast to earlier social forms, in which people were restricted by external conditions and circumstances, we now create these boundaries ourselves.
When we experience rejection and are unable to cope with this experience, we often react aggressively or become paralyzed. Dealing with this type of rejection requires emotional intelligence.
Consciously viewing fears as an opportunity for growth
Consciously learning to overcome your own limitations and fears is irrational—not rational. We all have fears. We experience them every day, everywhere. Without opening ourselves up completely and facing challenges, we experience stagnation or further restriction rather than progress.
We can train our emotional power and the strength that comes with it to face confrontations.
If we humans were to avoid difficult situations altogether, we would prevent progress in all areas of our societies. Instead of building a wall of frustration that we encounter with evasive maneuvers, we must clear away the stones that lie in our path and continue on our way. We ourselves are responsible for the extent to which we allow our inner chains to constrain us more and more. But those who face their fears and consciously acknowledge them can strengthen their inner strength and free themselves from inner fears and chains.
Our task for you:
Where do you limit yourself? Take a close look at these situations and conditions and address them. Carefully approach your fears and open yourself up. Face the challenges. Build resilience by accepting the painful experience of rejection, growing from this situation, and developing greater emotional strength so that you can overcome your fears.
Your team at the Grundl Leadership Institute
