Do you know what drives me crazy about myself and others when it comes to communication? Do you really want to know? Not getting to the point. Beating around the bush!
I often wonder why this phenomenon is so widespread among managers in particular. Isn't it especially important in professions that involve a high degree of communication to get to the heart of the matter quickly in conversations and communication? I think so. But why is this so difficult for us humans?
Trust – Self-confidence – Confrontation
In response to this, I would like to present the following simple causal chain (see diagram): Trust in oneself (self-confidence) and trust in others leads people to engage in constructive debate. Only when people engage in constructive debate can clarity emerge. With clarity, people take responsibility , in the next step, achieve results.
Please don't misunderstand me. By confrontation, I don't mean constantly arguing and possibly even taking offense as a result. Confrontation means consciously breaking through your own need for harmony. Through a deliberately chosen confrontation, you can achieve a higher level of communication. If you compare the whole thing to a very sultry and hot heat wave in summer, confrontation is the necessary thunderstorm. Afterwards, the air is bearable and largely pleasant again.
But where do leader learn leader , self-confidence, and confrontation? The necessary prerequisite for clarity? I would argue that if they learn it at all, it is only in their professional lives. But why are these important areas still far too rarely taken into account in the training and further education of managers?
Without clarity, you will never become the best you can be.
In my view, the consequences of a lack of clarity are dramatic and cause extremely high costs for many companies. Without clarity, leader the people they lead will never responsibility the level of responsibility that they could. The same applies to results: you and your colleagues will never be the best you could be. What a shame!
To ensure clarity, responsibility results for yourself and your environment, you need to start with the basics—trust, self-confidence, and confrontation. Easy to say, but not so easy to implement. In the following, I will show you concrete implementation steps for each of these areas:
Steps to take to build trust:
- Answer the following questions for yourself: Why am I trustworthy as a person? Why do other people trust me? Write down at least five points here.
- Define at least ten values that are important to you as a person, take responsibility for these values, responsibility stand up for them.
- Read the blog article on trust: Credibility—the foundation of trust
Steps to take to build self-confidence:
- Keep a success journal: Write down at least five things you did well each day—preferably in the evening in bed before you go to sleep.
- Read a book on the topic of "increasing self-confidence." Feel free to contact me for book recommendations.
- Read the blog article on boosting self-esteem.
Steps to take in order to engage in (constructive) debate:
- Answer the following questions for yourself: What advantages will it have for me/others if I engage with other people in the future?
- Give yourself full permission to engage in (constructive) debate with others.
- Over the next four weeks, engage in debate at least once a week (both professionally and privately).
If you have any further questions about the implementation steps, please feel free to contact us using the comment function.
