Introduction
We are living in a time when the turbulence of life is becoming increasingly intense. We must have the ability to adapt quickly to new circumstances. The pressure to perform is constantly increasing. We are constantly competing and rivaling others. The stability we once had in the world through religion, family, work, and friendship is lacking today. That is why it is vital that we create stability within ourselves. But how can we build such inner stability? I would like to share an idea with you. There are six pillars that help to create inner stability.
Many people talk about self-confidence or self-assurance, which in turn is based on self-esteem. What does self-esteem mean to you? How do you assess yourself? Do you need to think about it first? Is it easy or difficult for you to put it into words? What is self-esteem anyway? If you break the word down, you can see its components more clearly: self – esteem. This makes it a little clearer: the value I assign to myself, or awareness of my own worth. To put it more precisely: I trust my abilities and consider myself valuable, even in light of my weaknesses and mistakes. I know deep down that I am entitled to success and happiness, and I allow myself to enjoy the fruits of my efforts.
How to recognize your excuses and turn them into results
Receive something very special: recognize your own excuses, then mentally rephrase them and finally bring them to a state of transformation.
Just ask yourself the following three questions: Who am I? What can I do? What am I worth? If you have crystal-clear answers to these questions, you are already very close to self-esteem.
What are the effects of high self-esteem?
A stable sense of self-esteem has many advantages: high life satisfaction, good health, greater resilience in the face of difficulties, greater flexibility, and the ability to adapt quickly to change. You show a high willingness to admit mistakes and correct them. You accept yourself as you are, without making this dependent on positive feedback or personal successes.
The healthier our self-esteem, the more inclined we are to treat others with respect, kindness, and fairness. Why? Because we don't perceive other people as a threat.
What are the effects of low self-esteem?
People with low self-esteem are plagued by a constant feeling of inadequacy, the feeling of not being good enough. They are tormented by feelings of inferiority. Failures discourage them, as they attribute them to their own mistakes. This, in turn, causes them to quickly give up. They are dependent on the approval of others, and their fear of rejection and criticism makes them more rigid and inflexible. They are afraid of new things, which causes them to adopt a defensive attitude in many ways. Such behavior does not necessarily attract success.
What shapes self-esteem?
Whether you have strong or weak self-esteem depends on your childhood home and the environment in which you grew up. Was it characterized by love and respect, clear rules, and were you seen and respected? Or was it characterized by contempt, constant condemnation, humiliation, ridicule, and manipulation?
Why is it worth learning about the six pillars of self-esteem? Because only through healthy self-esteem can you become "WHOLE" or well-rounded in your being. You know yourself that a strong and intact immune system is essential to being completely healthy. Self-esteem is the immune system of consciousness.
If you would like to know how to overcome typical fears such as rejection or failure, then I invite you to read my next blog, where I will explain the first pillar of self-esteem .
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