If you are reading these lines, then you are still on board. Personally, I am delighted about that, of course. But I am even more delighted for you, because you have a genuine interest in working on yourself. This brings us to today's topic: personal responsibility or self-responsibility. SELF-responsibility. People often look outside themselves for answers to what happens to them. However, the right answer is always within me.
Please take a moment to consider: What percentage of responsibility do you take for yourself? Only then continue reading.
What do you understand by personal responsibility—how would you describe it?
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- I am responsible for my decisions and actions.
- I am responsible for my health.
- I am responsible for fulfilling my desires.
- I am responsible for how I receive a message.
- I am responsible for achieving my goals.
- I am responsible for the results of my employees, my children, partners, etc.
- I am responsible for who I am today and how I see the world.
You probably nodded your head in agreement with every sentence—right? Maybe you even thought, "That makes sense." If so, then that's theoretically correct.
But what does this look like in practice?
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Let's take a closer look at the example of decisions and actions: Your supervisor gives you a task with a clear deadline. To complete the task, you are dependent on an external customer who has to supply you with certain parts—the customer is behind schedule, so you cannot meet the deadline. You go to your supervisor at the specified time and inform them that you cannot deliver the task. How quickly is the customer now responsible for your failure to meet the deadline?
Further examples:
- You're late for an appointment or a meeting—who's responsibility? Traffic jams, not enough parking spaces, I was held up?
- You have been working for a company for 20 years and suddenly you receive your notice of termination – how do you react? Is the company now being ungrateful, has it not appreciated your work?
- You don't feel like going to the family celebration, but you do it for the sake of your wife or husband. An argument ensues and you go home upset. Who is responsibility if you now feel bad or are in a bad mood?
- Do you know how many people are stuck in unhappy relationships? One of the two has long since realized that it's over—they no longer feel anything—just emptiness. But they don't want to take the first step – because they don't want to hurt the other person – or they don't want to be the bad guy. They are totally unhappy and start manipulating the other person with the aim of maneuvering them into taking the first step. This often leads to painful experiences. Acting responsibly means recognizing it, acknowledging it, and then taking action.
- If I always say YES but mean NO inside, who bears the responsibility the fact that I have almost no time for myself?
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Finally, I would like to give you some food for thought on the subject of "responsibility your employees' results."Are you familiar with this situation? You give an employee a new task—after a while, he comes back and says, "Boss, I can't do it. I've tried my best with this new task—you can do it much better. You do it with such ease."How tempted are you to help the employee? What do you think if this happens often – what effect does it have on the employee? How willing do you think they will be responsibility ?
Another example – how often do you say, "Oh, I'd rather do it myself, it's quicker and I know exactly what the result will be."
How likely is it that you will always have a lot to do with this management style? And then you might ask yourself why your employees can't get it done.
Living responsibly means reflecting on yourself. How have I contributed to where I am today? Personal responsibility means owning up to your mistakes and not blaming others or circumstances. Always ask yourself what part you responsibility relationship ending, in getting fired, in having employees who don't want responsibility , etc.
Do you remember my question at the beginning of the text? What percentage of responsibility do you take yourself responsibility Check it again now.
If you are looking for someone to blame, use a mirror, not binoculars!
