Have you ever thought about when you actually change? Do you change out of necessity—because of pain or a crisis? Because of a defeat or because you really want to? Because your desire to achieve something is so strong that you want to change for it. Because you have a goal and it is important to you to achieve it. Why do you change?
Do you know the answer? Next, ask yourself: When would you most like to change? When you have to, or when you want to? If you answered "when I want to," then I have only one question left: Why don't you do it?
People change for two main reasons. One is a strong emotional experience. This does not necessarily have to be a crisis or a setback. It could also be a goal that we have achieved or failed to achieve. The other reason is a conscious decision—such as whether you need to change or want to change. An insight or realization that is connected to meaning or significance can tip the scales. We encounter both extremes time and again throughout our lives, and they determine when and whether we change.
For example, when a person experiences meaning or a meaningful situation over a longer period of time, major leaps in their consciousness are the logical result. However, the older we get, the rarer the motive of "voluntary growth" becomes, because motivation for this declines with age. Older people often only change when they have to. When something pushes them to do so or when it is necessary. We can observe this.
A quick glance at the statistics confirms this: 60 percent of changes in people occur when they experience a crisis or try to move away from the pain it causes. Only 40 percent of changes occur because people experience meaning over a long period of time and actively pursue it.
So if we integrate meaning into our everyday lives, convey it in our communication, and constantly strive to create meaning, many more people should develop further as a result of this meaningfulness. But how do you manage to keep it small and still focus on meaningfulness?
My tip: Focus on the essential things in everyday life.
To emphasize this change through meaning, it is also important to actively avoid crises and pain. And by that I don't mean mentally avoiding them once they are there. No, make yourself aware of how you can avoid or combat this crisis. Change your consciousness. Because the following applies: behavior can only change if consciousness has first taken a leap in the right direction.
Become the best people you can be.
That is my wish.
Yours, Boris Grundl
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